NO !!!!.
Who has never experienced the situation where your lips say yes while not thinks your brain?
Why, in this case, you say yes?
- For fear of disappointing your audience, your friends, your boss, for example. You have the right to refuse something to your children, refuse to do something for your boss.
- For fear of being seen as someone evil, of asocial, for selfish
- By shyness
- Lack of confidence in you.
Be afraid to say no has consequen
ces on your life: llow the majority opinion)
- It may be a feeling of ill-being, inferiority, guilt, stress
- When you are always what others decide for you, this is to let others decide your life
- In short, you live in discomfort you are solely responsible.
Yet solutions exist to get away:
- You can original practice to say no in situations more complex and simple.As you will see that this is not so awkward to say no is the original "no" which costs.
- You can also use the technique of visualization, weigh the pros and cons. Ask yourself what might be the consequences of your failure or your acceptance. Perhaps that failure would be less damaging in the end.
- Of course, you must fight your lack of confidence in you, your shyness. Learn to say, to impose your personal opinion, your opinion. You should always try to stay yourself. You should not be afraid to have a different opinion of others (it is not required to follow the majority opinion)
- Whenever you say no, explain why in a healthy and constructive explanation does not hurt the person you say no. It is essential not to shut himself in the unsaid (without making a play on words)
- You must not forget that this is not because you say no you do not like the person you say.Similarly, the person to whom you say no does not cease to love you for it (provided to explain your refusal)
While it works if your not assume ie be able to hold. A yes or no commitments are, you must respect them. Now that you know not, so you have more weight, more values. Your friends will now that your yes is "sincere and thoughtful" rather than mechanical as before.
Go ahead, repeat your head regularly in the following sentence: "I have the right to say NO! "
Co-authors: BRUNET Isabelle and Katy GAWELIK
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